Falling in love is a magical and wondrous experience, but once the heart flutters have settled a little and two people move towards a more serious relationship, various challenges may need to be addressed.
Unlike earlier relationships, when love blossoms late in life careers have slowed down or ceased, the children have left home, and health and fitness may not be what it had been, meaning that a ‘lifetime’ of togetherness may not be as long as first anticipated.
From a less romantic perspective, the financial implications of beginning a relationship at this time of life are serious and need to be considered carefully. Parents who re-partner without considering the broader families and important people who took part in their life journey are at risk of unknowingly creating negative repercussions. For example, ‘new’ partners who pass on their estates only to each other, leaving at least one of the couples’ children with nothing while the other partner’s children inherit all, can cause long-term hurt and pain.
Another financial aspect unique to this stage of life emerges when there is a high level of financial disparity between the two partners. While one partner has accumulated a lot of wealth, the other may have not. Questions are then raised in regard to how finances are distributed between the couple while they are alive and after one or both die.
Other implications can relate to health issues. They include questions such as who would be the primary carer for a sick partner? The sick partner’s children, or the new spouse? What are the role divisions between the children, other family members and the spouse?
Take advice and make a plan
Whilst every situation will be different, here are some guidelines for addressing the unique features of financial planning in later life.
For many years it was customary to not involve children and other relevant stakeholders in formulating a Will. History books are filled with disputes and hurt feelings over Wills that were read leaving the beneficiaries astonished and devastated over the deceased’s final decisions. Don’t wait until it is too late. Financial matters that can have serious impacts on the future lives of your loved ones need to be discussed well in advance with all relevant stakeholders. Preferably before your Will is signed and sealed.
New relationships require new financial arrangements. For example, if buying a property together, what are the consequences of sharing a dwelling?
Below are some examples:
A happy relationship is a transparent one, particularly when it comes to money. A good start is to draw up a personal “balance sheet” listing the values of all assets each person owns (eg. property, superannuation, car, bank accounts, etc). All debts and liabilities, such as an outstanding mortgage, personal loans, and credit card balances, should also be included.
After both partners are aware of the other’s current financial situation, and if appropriate, a “Binding Financial Agreement” could be considered. This is a legal document that sets out how their property and assets would be divided were they to separate. This is particularly appropriate when there is a high level of financial disparity between partners.
Growing old together involves increasing health costs and risks of illness. It is recommended that the partners review their health insurances and redesign them to fit the new life arrangements. Redesigning may also reduce premium costs.
Health care plans need to involve relevant family members who may wish to take part in managing care at times of need. Planning in advance could reduce future friction between the cared one’s family and the new spouse regarding treatment strategies and expenses.
Planning and preparing financially should by no means lessen the excitement of a new love experience, but when addressed properly will allow the newly formed relationship to be a source of growth for the couple and their loved ones, in the present, and into the future.
It is recommended to discuss these matters with an estate planning lawyer and your financial planner sooner rather than later.
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